A spouse is not an object, and shouldn't be thrown away just because it doesn't work the way we think it should. If my phone stops working the way I want it to, I can upgrade. That is how you treat an object. People are different. Care should be given on both sides. Both spouses need to to their own work on themselves and the relationship. Also, give it time. It's never a good idea to make such a rash decision after something as huge as adding a child to the family. Your lives have changed completely, and it will take time to get into a rhythm. I think there might be a 3rd option, other than the man simply having an affair or giving up the relationship as the author states, but working on the relationship takes work.